I keep wanting to say that I'm a terrible person for wishing this, but I don't feel like I'm terrible for saying so: I wish she'd just die already.
It is COMPLETELY normal for family members and caregivers to feel like this. Taking care of an elderly person with many health problems is stressful, exhausting, demanding in a bunch of ways--Fiscal, emotional, physical etc. When someone reaches the point where they are burned out, it really is healthier for the patient to be placed in a long term care facility.
Also, it's very common for family members to feel guilty at being relieved when the patient finally dies. Again, normal.
And you know what? The truth is that in this country we are not okay with death. If my 99 yr old man hadn't gotten hospice, I would have had to call DCFS because of his refusal to eat. Because that would have been allowing a patient to kill himself. Yes. At 99.
Anyway, I didn't mean to soapbox on your lj, but know that I am sending good vibes of peace and healing to your family.
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I keep wanting to say that I'm a terrible person for wishing this, but I don't feel like I'm terrible for saying so: I wish she'd just die already.
It is COMPLETELY normal for family members and caregivers to feel like this. Taking care of an elderly person with many health problems is stressful, exhausting, demanding in a bunch of ways--Fiscal, emotional, physical etc. When someone reaches the point where they are burned out, it really is healthier for the patient to be placed in a long term care facility.
Also, it's very common for family members to feel guilty at being relieved when the patient finally dies. Again, normal.
And you know what? The truth is that in this country we are not okay with death. If my 99 yr old man hadn't gotten hospice, I would have had to call DCFS because of his refusal to eat. Because that would have been allowing a patient to kill himself. Yes. At 99.
Anyway, I didn't mean to soapbox on your lj, but know that I am sending good vibes of peace and healing to your family.