Seriously, radar

[eee1313]

How do guys do it? How do they know? How is it that whenever a girl finally loses interest and moves on, that is when they reappear?

I'm going out with a guy tonight. Like, as a date. Kind of a blind date, even though he and I have been chatting online for nearly a year. He seems a lot more interested in me than I am in him. But who knows? We'll see what happens. But the point is this—here I am, going out with a cute Asian boy tonight, and I check my e-mail and what do I find? A message from Dave, apologizing for not e-mailing in a week because he's been so busy, blah blah. No! That's not fair! I have a date tonight! I had written him off! I don't want to still be interested in Dave! (Because even though he is, frankly, a pretty shitty facsimile of a boyfriend, I really liked the guy and I'd be willing to try again if he were more attentive.)

Why must boys have radar that tells them when girls don't care any more? WHY?

Comments

[fenwic.livejournal.com]

OMG for REAL. I have never been a girl who's had guys banging down her door, but I was never more popular than when I was involved with someone else. I used to think that they could sniff the sex on you or something, but it's more than that. Seriously. The DAY a boy moved in with me, another boy called all, "Hey, I just broke up with X, and, well, how you doin'?"

NO FAIR!!

[eee1313.livejournal.com]

1) I need your icon. Seriously. I say that all the time now. Did I pick it up off LJ or something? Because I have no idea where it came from. Seriously.

2) BOYS ARE DUMB!!!!!!!!!! I cannot use enough exclamation points to make this any more clear. DUMB!!!!!!!!!!!!!*

*Of course, the following guys do not apply to the "dumb" blanket rule: stingmeyer, jasunshine, bdar, zarfmouse, Greg, Steve@theMovies, Andrew, and BJ. All other boys? DUMB!!!!!!!!!!!!

[sodanyc.livejournal.com]

Seriously. I say that all the time now. Did I pick it up off LJ or something? Because I have no idea where it came from. Seriously.

I also find myself saying "seriously" all the time now. So much so that I start to annoy myself with how often I say it, and I totally have no clue where it came from. There was an ep of Grey's Anatomy where the characters kept saying it, but I feel like it also must be an LJ thing.

[spicedrum.livejournal.com]

*snicker*

[fenwic.livejournal.com]

Heh, I've been beating "seriously" to death for as long as I can remember. Also, "actually" and "apparently". And, thanks to escap1974, "for real" and "for serious". I speak like a twelve-year-old, but that's not new.

Anyway, this particular icon is from ga_icons. This post of quote icons in particular. (I also picked up "I need my porn", natch.) As sodanyc mentioned, there was an ep with about a hundred "seriously"s in it. Do you watch Grey's Anatomy? It's developing its own brand of Whedonese (or Sorkinese or whatever). But GA icon makers especially are all over the quote icons.

I'm pretty sure I saw some "Boys are stupid" icons there, too :)

[bunglegirl.livejournal.com]

Dude. Go read you posts from the past month. That should set you straight. He HUNG UP ON YOU! That's not being not attentive, that's beeing an ass!

[eee1313.livejournal.com]

Yes! Exactly. Thank you.

Besides, if things with CAB go well tonight, I won't even have to worry about dealing with Dave any more. Right? Right.

(Still. I really liked Dave. Why couldn't he have liked me as much as I liked him? Stupid boy. He really fucked with my head.)

[bunglegirl.livejournal.com]

Forget him. And if he makes EXTRORDINARY efforts to make it up to you then maybe consider throwing him a bone. Not a steak! just a bone.

[eee1313.livejournal.com]

My mom has a theory that he's blowing me off so that he doesn't have to deal with Christmas. She thinks he'll come back swinging around the second week of January. I wouldn't be surprised if she's right.

And yeah, totally. I think at this point, if I should talk to him again, I'm just going to have to say, "If you want to date me, or even be my friend, you have to make an effort. Like, more than once a month. Because this doesn't work for me AT ALL."

[bunglegirl.livejournal.com]

You're making excuses for him! Christmas? C'mon, if the idea of buying/not buying you a token present (I mean, you've only dated a few times, right?) is such a big deal for him to be a total ass then that proves he's a total ass. Heh, this is fun giving advice when in actuality I haven't dated this century.

[xica-s.livejournal.com]

Dude, that is one of the etenral mysteries of life. Boys totally have sixth sense about when you've moved on. But, in this case I think its important to keep in mind why you were in a moving on place to begin with. YOu just said that he is a shitty facsimile of a boyfriend. Go with that. You have a date tonight. Focus on that. Dave can sit on the backburner for awhile. Turnabout is fair play.

And yay! for cute Asian boys (or cute boys of any ethnicity for that matter).

[eee1313.livejournal.com]

Turnabout is fair play.

No kidding.

I am kind of weirded out about meeting CAB tonight. I have absolutely zero idea of what to expect. Or what he expects. After a year of IM-ing, I wish I knew more about him. This could be really, REALLY awkward. I hope we can at least have a conversation face-to-face. But again, if it goes well, I won't even have to worry about Dave any more. Too bad, sucker! You missed your chance!

[xica-s.livejournal.com]

Honey, I don't think you should invest any time in Dave regardless of what happens with CAB. If we learn nothing from my Ryan debacle, its that there comes a time where you know you need to let go and you just need to let that happen. If you let him jerk you around once, he'll just do it again and again. Trust me. This year has taught me a lot about dating and even if I have the damning inability to lean from my own mistakes, doesn't mean you can't.

In the end, boys are stupid and we should all invest in Energizer Battery. Their stock will never plummet. I'm going to contribute to their fiscal well-being when I buy myself a new Bob (battery operated boyfriend) this weekend. I got rid of my previous Bob this summer. I miss him terribly.

[eee1313.livejournal.com]

Well, I did just buy rechargable batteries yesterday, but those were meant for my camera. ;) And if you're looking for a BOB, go to Early to Bed (http://www.early2bed.com) (don't click the link at work!). It's seriously the best store. And it's pretty! You'd like it. I'll go with you on Sunday if you want. We can make an outing of it!

[xica-s.livejournal.com]

Yes, I have long heard of the joys of ETB. But I've never been. I always think shopping for toys with at least one other person present to giggle with you is the best way to do such a thing. I'm trying to figure out my Sunday (there will be shopping, but I'm weighing a trip to *yipes* Woodfield) but I'm almost afraid to go to the mall Sunday and your suggestion sounds like much more fun.

[eee1313.livejournal.com]

Just give me a call Saturday and let me know. I'll be at my mom's, but I'll have my cell with me. I'm all for doing a trip to E2B on Sunday with you. Maybe we can drag fava_bean as well. Hell, ANYONE who wants to come. The store is tres fun. And yes, much giggling is always involved. (Once I was there and saw two grown women get into a toy fight, a la Sorority Boys. Awesome.)

[bdar.livejournal.com]

Interestingly enough, this conversation is one of the key moments in the film Swingers...except it's Vince Vaughn telling Jon Favreau that women have this uncanny sense.

To be fair, it's slightly different. You're theorizing that guys get interested again when you've gotten interested in somebody else. Vaughn was saying that women get interested again when you're no longer interested in them.

[eee1313.livejournal.com]

I think both rules are true, actually.

In conclusion, we're all dumb. Hooray!

[georgevna.livejournal.com]

Have you ever read Matt Groenig's "Love is Hell"? There is an amazingly accurate panel, in which the male rabbit-thing (I can't remember their names, or if they even had them) says "Love is doomed because men are stupid and women are crazy." The female then proceeds to take issue with this, becoming ever more irrational (even crazy), in her questioning why he's saying she's crazy. He, for his part, keeps making more and more stupid remarks in the face of her insanity.

Love is doomed because men are stupid and women are crazy. Truer words were never spoken; speaking from the happily married perspective, pretty much all the problems we DO have come down to him being stupid, me being crazy, and it all going to hell from there....

I know you still like Dave. But he needs to live with the reality that you are NOT just waiting for him. If he wants more of the fabulousness that is you, he needs to do some serious wooing and winning - and waiting. Oh, and APOLOGIZING. sigh. I think you should keep walking away. If he catches up and things work out, awesome. But don't let an email slow down your momentum away....

[fishdoctorpost.livejournal.com]

Dude. It's all true, huh? 'Course, I'm the master of inattentive. I mean, if I met I guy that I actually fell head-over-heels for, I'd probably try real hard, but otherwise I'm a really crappy girlfriend. (And my job completely interferes with EVERYTHING anyway; anyone dating me has to have the patience of a saint.)

[fava-bean.livejournal.com]

Yep, boys have a rare and evil talent for that. You finally get to the "I've barely heard from him in the last three weeks so screw him!" stage (deciding to possibly pursue an interest elsewhere) and BAM! he calls or emails or something. The best move is to keep living your life. Don't go out of your way for him. If you are going to see him again it has to be on your terms and with him making some MAJOR effort. (We SO have to get together for some girl talk soon. Our lives feel as though they are becoming a lesser version of Marjee's. Slightly crazed and very confusing.)